Let’s face it. Being eternally angry at your ex is the great American pastime.
Have you ever considered all of the angry feelings we are surrounded by as half of all American adults break up their marriages, and then try to find a way to get back at each other? There’s a lot of ugliness out there, and it is all negative energy that is helping nobody get what they want out of life.
The only way to convert all of that negativity into something good is by first forgiving yourself for being human. As a human being you have made a mistake. Now you are ready to learn much more about who you are, to make certain you never make THAT mistake again.
Under your anger is boundless pain and frustration, and underneath all of that is a small child who made a bargain to be loved, appreciated and understood and now feels absolute betrayal. You trusted the wrong person with your heart, your dreams and your sense of self, and they bashed it to bits. What now?
A long period of grieving is in order. Do whatever it takes to love your Self now. Take long walks alone or with friends, get back into those hobbies you used to enjoy, get a loving pet or two who will show you boundless, abiding loyalty, and write in your journal about how unfair life can be at times. Listen to music and watch movies that help you believe in love again!
Get angry at your ex, but realize the sooner you find a way to forgive them, the sooner you will be ready to move on to a better life. Forgiveness can be such an empowering experience as you finally let go of the emotions of your past.
You gave your power away to someone who did not appreciate you. Perhaps they didn’t even have the potential to love at all. By forgiving them, you are ready to fully acknowledging how destructive they were to you and your self-respect.
Now it’s time to welcome back that positive, powerful person you were BEFORE the marriage and the divorce. Time to be YOU again!