So here we go again.   Another dumb article telling the statistical likelihood of you finding love this year.  

Well, guess what, whether you find love is NOT ABOUT STATISTICS AT ALL!  Don’t believe these ridiculous articles and please don’t be discouraged by them.  Whether you find love has to do with YOU and, yes, attitude IS everything!

Whether you find love depends on whether you believe you are worthy, but more importantly it depends on whether you still believe in love.  Perhaps you’ve been through a few really bad experiences with what you thought was love.   Perhaps you have even been emotionally traumatized.

If you have, your rational mind will then automatically alert you when you reach the “DANGER ZONE” again.   It may say, “Don’t believe this experience!” or “Don’t trust anyone ever again!”  And it is mighty tough to find love when your rational mind is working against you every step of the way!

That’s why you need to spend some time forgiving yourself for past mistakes, give yourself some serious self-compassion, and then re-learn the ability to listen to your inner wisdom.   Your intuition or inner wisdom is that part of you that can counteract the power of your strictly rational mind.  Your inner wisdom may help you open to trusting others again.

This may all sound counter to your best interests, but it is actually quite difficult to find love when your own mind is working against you.   I’m sure you are quite aware why you don’t believe in love anymore.   Explore your own rationale for avoiding love.   Question your motivations and find your own personal solutions to your lack of faith.  And if you need some help or encouragement along the way, you might want to check out my new book.

I went from total disillusionment to the love of my life in six months at age 49.   It wasn’t easy, but it was so worth it!