self-respect and love
While I was putting together our latest Boomers’ Blog Carnival yesterday, I happened to begin reading one of my journals from my early thirties (I’m 56 now). There I was reminded of how BAD I was at choosing appropriate love partners in my twenties and thirties. BTW, my forties weren’t great either!
What did I finally learn to change this disturbing trend in my life? In one word, an unwavering new sense of self-love and SELF-RESPECT. My standards were so low for so long when it came to expecting to be treated well by others. I let far too many people walk all over me, without a clue of how badly I was treating myself!
To change this bad habit you need to stop and think about what you expect from those who care about you. How do you expect to be treated? Begin from how you treat yourself. Do you love yourself and respect your own judgment? Or do you constantly criticize and second-guess yourself? One book I found extremely helpful in this regard is: How To Be An Adult in Relationships by David Richo.
Spend time reflecting on how you have been treating yourself all of your life, and where those behavior patterns came from. Learn what it feels like to finally love and accept yourself, and then you will be so much closer to believing in love again, and finding it this time!