This may seem like a stupid question, but it is not. Who doesn’t want and need love? But that is not the question. Are you ready to be as generous in giving love and acceptance as you are ready to receive it?
All love should begin with insight into your own ability to love and accept yourself exactly the way you are. As hard as you are on yourself day-to-day, that is how critical you will feel eventually when you get involved with someone new.
Sure at first it will all seem like magic and roses, but that infatuation stage can only last so long, usually just a few months up to a year. What then? Do you have enough self-love, self-respect and strength of spirit to love your partner through thick and thin? Will the good times be worth the tough times when everything seems to be going wrong?
It may seem like self-love is not the most important ingredient in a superior love relationship. But if you are maintaining a running battle inside of yourself, where you mete out critical remarks constantly, this will impact your ability to attract and give unconditional love and acceptance to everyone else in your life.
If you cannot maintain a fairly high level of self-respect, you will too easily be attracted to those who treat you badly, and once you are stuck in a relationship where your partner does not respect you, it may feel impossible to get out.
With age we learn that love isn’t half as simple as it may seem at first. How do we learn how to love ourselves enough to find satisfying, long-term relationships with others? We work on ourselves. We change and grow into the kind of person WE WOULD CHOOSE TO BE INVOLVED WITH.
That’s exactly the reason why I wrote my new book: How To Believe In Love Again. To guide you step-by-step into a new relationship with yourself, so that when you do meet that fantastic new person you’ve been searching for your whole life, you will recognize them for who they are.
And they will quickly see what an amazing person you have become!