For years I only fell for men who could care less about me, and then I’d try really hard to “win” their love.
I was sorely misinformed. I thought that was all I could have when it came to love…
How do you spell low self-esteem?
I escaped emotional abuse and finally changed myself, by realizing what a cool person I truly was. I began to generate so much self-compassion and self-respect that I finally KNEW that I would never allow anyone to disrespect me again, and that included family members!
I divorced my first husband (my wasband) and then turned up my abuse meter to be especially sensitive to all negativity around me. One nasty slip of the tongue and I am out of there!
Do I sound angry? That’s what it takes. It is very important to become sensitive to your own anger response. I know most of us were conditioned not to get angry at all, but this is really your only way of knowing when someone is being abusive to you.
Begin to notice what happens when you feel hurt or angry, and remember your pain can hide a lot of anger beneath it. Does your heart rate go up? Do you start to shake a bit?
Feel free to feel how angry you really are, and question what about your most recent experience made you feel abused. Were they critical? Were you treated unfairly? Do you ever want to see that person again?
This is true for all relationships in my life today, business or personal. It may take me a while to realize how angry I feel (OUCH time!) but when I do I immediately act to remove all abuse from my life.
Being so sensitive to negative people made my first meeting with my next husband a special treat. Here was a man who had so much to give, no blaming or shaming here. And, as it turned out, I was the special person he wanted to share all that love with!
Of course I was scared and unsure at first because I had been hurt so many times in the past, but now, seven years later, I know I made a great call!
For years I only fell for men who could care less about me, and then I’d try really hard to “win” their love.