Renewed faith in love
This week we have some actual excavation going on on our foothills building site! YES!
We had a lovely home in the suburbs, but Mike always said he wasn’t moving again until we got a view.. well I guess we will get that with our new home!
I am pleasingly surprised at how much I love the rural life. When we go up to visit our new home site, I just have to pinch myself to believe this will all be ours!
From one miserable, unemployed divorcee to a happily married writer with a bright new life up in those beautiful hills in just ten years… can’t beat that!
Eat your heart out JOHN… You know who you are!
If you truly do want to change and find a way to love yourself and others, go study this article by the Dalai Lama.
Then take small steps everyday towards living it. I guarantee this simple practice will lighten your load, and light the way towards a much better life and a much better world… one full of love!
Don’t we all want to make the perfect match, and then live happily ever after? The only problem with that plan is that life will get in the way. It always does.
You would probably not believe the number of romantic challenges Mike and I have faced in the past year. The year began with a possible plan to move to Ecuador to save money. That plan fell through for a number of reasons, when I went to Cuenca for a short visit last September.
Plan B was to find a reasonably priced piece of land in southern Colorado with a great view. We achieved that goal fairly easily.
The hard part was emptying out our present home in Fort Collins, fixing it up, staging it, selling it and then moving all of our earthly possessions to a small rental in a town in southern Colorado. If you don’t see a few major romantic challenges there, you have no experience in relationships!
Stress equals arguments. Change equals disagreements… that’s about the size of it.
We just got a permit to start building a solar home on the land pictured above… wish us both luck!
I have to say, I am very impressed with the emotional intelligence of this young writer in her 20s. This list: “20 Things You Need to Accept About Your 20s” is quite useful for those of all ages.
And when it comes to love, truer words were never spoken!
“The first time you fall in love probably won’t be the last. There are different kinds of love and people that will come into your life for different reasons.”
How useful to know this for certain at age 20, instead of trying to “make” everything last.
But my favorite love truth is this:
“When you do find your person, they aren’t going to be perfect. Your relationship or marriage will be hard sometimes. It isn’t about thinking someone is perfect; it’s about knowing that they are perfect for you. You need to marry your best friend, not your “dream” man or woman.
Whenever my husband and I disagree, which has been often since we decided to remodel, sell our home, move and build a new home elsewhere, the stress of all this change has taken its toll on our relationship. At times like these it is so important to remember that no one is always correct or ‘perfect’ but they may be ‘perfect for you.’
How do I know Mike is perfect for me? Because he is someone who totally values what we share together. Therefore he makes it clear that he cares deeply about both of our needs and feelings. This makes it possible for us to get to the other side of an argument feeling good about our decision AND our relationship.
And if you don’t understand the value of that, you have a lot to learn about love!
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” — The Dalai Lama