Midlife love

Breaking ground in the CO foothills!

This week we have some actual excavation going on on our foothills building site!  YES!

IMGP2739We were up there the other evening at dusk and experienced a magnificent light show!

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We had a lovely home in the suburbs, but Mike always said he wasn’t moving again until we got a view.. well I guess we will get that with our new home!

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I am pleasingly surprised at how much I love the rural life.  When we go up to visit our new home site, I just have to pinch myself to believe this will all be ours!

DSCF0797To each her own, but I feel like one lucky dog!!!

success is the best revengeFrom one miserable, unemployed divorcee to a happily married writer with a bright new life up in those beautiful hills in just ten years… can’t beat that!

 Eat your heart out JOHN…                  You know who you are!

‘Proof of Life’ in online dating

Did any of you see the interview with Nev Schulman on TV the other day?  He has a new book out about ‘catfishing’… which apparently means lying online to get a date.

catfishHere’s the meaning from the Urban Dictionary: ‘A catfish is someone who pretends to be someone they’re not using Facebook or other social media to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances.’

I found this all quite entertaining, because I met my new [and improve!] husband through Match.com over nine years ago. Yes, you have to be super careful out there, and yet I just don’t get how lying to others about who you are will ever pay off!

The part of Nev’s interview I found most entertaining was how some lie with their photos online, by having them photoshopped, etc.  He said the new thing is to ask perspective dates to go have their photo taken with a specific item in their hand, to get a more recent and accurate image.

DSCF0779My mind immediately leapt to those ‘proof of life’ photos from a kidnapping.  You know, where the money won’t be dropped off until they see a photo of the victim, holding a newspaper with today’s date on it… WHAT is the world coming to?

Country road, take me home…

Our favorite pastime, since we moved to a small town in southern Colorado, is to take off on some county road just to see where it goes.  This morning, on our way back from La Veta, I took a few photos that show exactly how nice it is down here… DSCF0689

Along County Road 510, on the way to the land we plan to build on soon, there is a cool adobe ruin…  DSCF0696

Then we got to our land and I finally walked all the way around it!  We had record rain in July here, so at the bottom of the hill I found this lovely grouping of wildflowers and deadwood: DSCF0712

This was our view on the way back to Highway 160.  Loved the shadow of the clouds on the mountains…  DSCF0724

Life’s romantic challenges…

Don’t we all want to make the perfect match, and then live happily ever after?  The only problem with that plan is that life will get in the way.  It always does.

You would probably not believe the number of romantic challenges Mike and I have faced in the past year. The year began with a possible plan to move to Ecuador to save money. That plan fell through for a number of reasons, when I went to Cuenca for a short visit last September.

View from our landPlan B was to find a reasonably priced piece of land in southern Colorado with a great view.  We achieved that goal fairly easily.

The hard part was emptying out our present home in Fort Collins, fixing it up, staging it, selling it and then moving all of our earthly possessions to a small rental in a town in southern Colorado.  If you don’t see a few major romantic challenges there, you have no experience in relationships!

Stress equals arguments.  Change equals disagreements… that’s about the size of it.

Mike + Laura small versionNow we face what some tell me is the greatest challenge of all, building a new home together.

We just got a permit to start building a solar home on the land pictured above…              wish us both luck!

Romance and Reality

There’s romance and then there’s reality!

I was just telling a friend of mine about how Mike and I met over nine years.  But ere you think it was all a dream-like romantic fantasy, let me set you straight.

I like romance as much as the next girl.  Of course I liked the fact that Mike drove up in a beautiful, clean red truck and pretty much swept me off my feet by opening the door for me to enter.  Of course I wanted to believe that he was as nice and honest as he appeared, but I also had some experience with online dating and I know how to do my research!

One previous experience taught me that people are not always what they seem.  On an E-Harmony date the previous year I met a man who I loved talking to, so he suggested that we get together the next day for lunch.  After that I never heard another peep out of him, even though I left numerous messages.  He vaporized!

So the next day, after Mike and I’s ten hour first date(!), I called him up and said I wanted to see where he lived… ( just to make sure he didn’t have a wife and kids, you know!)  After that went well, I looked up our county property records online to see if he actually owned the home he said he owned.

There’s romance and then there’s reality, and some are more challenged by these concepts than others… I may believe in love, but I also believe in doing my research!

Robert Mirabal and the power of intention

“You never know what the spirit of intention can do.”  –Robert Mirabal

fort franciscoWe spent a marvelous morning on Saturday at the Native American Celebration at Fort Francisco in La Veta. 

First of all the Fort is a beautiful example of 1800s adobe construction.  Their exhibits are also a wonderful collection of memorabilia from the past century, like a a walk through the homes of the early 1900s.  Old furniture, clothes, and my favorite, photos of people from our past.

Then we enjoyed a dance performance by three girls from the Jicarilla Apache Nation.  The highlight was a performance by Robert Mirabal of Taos Pueblo.  Yes, his music is a wonder, but I also found great wisdom in his words.

Robert MirabalRobert shared with this mostly European-American crowd the history of this area and what it meant to Native Americans.  He explained why his ancestors came up here from the south and kept the trails alive and fresh for others. He spoke of intention in our daily life.

When Robert plays his flutes and sings, it sounds like he is channeling the life and  stories of his ancestors, bringing up vivid imagery of our Native American past.

And in a way, isn’t that what we all do each day, channel our ancestors?  So much of who we are is determined by choices made by our parents and grandparents.

I am honored to be now living on this land where the buffalo roamed, the place where my grandfather hoped to retire.  I feel closer to the land than I have in decades, and I intent to protect this land and its heritage.