“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.” - Brene Brown
If you’ve ever been devastated by loving the wrong person. If you’ve ever loved and lost, and felt you lost a part of yourself somehow in that process, than you cannot help but cringe when someone says to you:
“Be authentic and vulnerable in your relationships with others!”
Your most likely response is: “Like that’s going to happen…” And yet, you also know that it is only when you are able to be your most vulnerable self that love occurs. This has to be the GREATEST contradiction when it comes to finding love.
But I believe there is a reason for this. Could it be that your inner wisdom is challenging you to find new ways to feel good enough about yourself, so that you can again risk feeling vulnerable around others? Could these feelings of rejection be a message in disguise, one sent to teach you how to love yourself even more?
Can we inoculate ourselves against future rejection by finally finding true self-respect, and a million great new reasons to love ourselves even more? Perhaps love is challenging you to change and grow into the super person you know you are inside! Is it time for that great person inside to come out and play?
For if you can find a way to thoroughly love and respect yourself, no one will be able to convince you ever again that you are unlovable or somehow inadequate.
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