I know most of the time, breaking up does not feel like a golden opportunity. But just for a few minutes, try re-framing your break up into your best chance of ever getting EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE!
A break up usually feels like some sort of crisis or lost opportunity. It is one moment in time when we should spend time focused on who we are and what we want to happen next.
Too often it makes us feel like a loser, especially when it comes to divorce.
Fight the urge to see it that way! You actually have two choices in how to feel about what is happening right now.
Too often we see any sort of rejection as a sign that we are worthless, and will never find a lover who truly loves us for who we are. This reflects how poorly we see our own true value. The more you feel worthless, the more you need to spend some serious time working on yourself to improve your self-respect and esteem.
BEFORE going forward to some other relationship, work on changing how you see yourself now. I have learned that we get what we are in relationships.
If you should find a way to see real value in yourself, and believe you have lots to offer others, you will then attract those who also have something to offer you.
Here’s a fresh way to view your divorce or break-up:
“I think I’ll spend some time working on feeling much better about myself, and then go out and find someone who is so much better for me!”
That was my experience after my divorce back in 2001. Initially I felt all was lost, but then I taught myself how to believe in myself and love again. I have every confidence you can do the same!
“There’s a light in the depths of your darkness…Let it shine!” – Dan Fogelberg in the song “The Gambler”