There is tremendous freedom in forgiving and letting go. Is it now time to make peace with your past?
Is there room in your heart to forgive?
Holding a grudge is like letting someone live rent-free in your head. I found my only path to believing in love again, was to first forgive myself for trusting the wrong people in my past.
Then I found ways to forgive past lovers who had betrayed me. Holding on to bad feelings only made me continue to feel bad about myself and my potential to ever find love again.
I would continually ask myself questions like: “How could I have been so naive? Why didn’t I see what I was doing? Why did I trust that person?”
These are the kinds of questions that can drive you crazy, so you must find a way to let them go. Those are the kinds of lessons found in my book.
We all have many lessons to learn in this lifetime, and sometimes we learn them slowly. But what is important is that we do learn and grow.
Once we begin to forgive ourselves for past mistakes, we naturally feel more self-compassion and respect. We feel for the person we used to be, and we may even begin to like them. Give your former Self a break. Live and learn!
Whatever made you think you wouldn’t make mistakes in this lifetime? You are only human. The point is to be constantly learning and growing as a person, and one part of you that must grow is your compassion for your own humanness.
Then you are ready to begin forgiving the people from your past. We were all young and silly once, we have ALL made a lot of mistakes. In fact we will most certainly make many more in our future. Is that OK?
Mistakes are the primary way in which we learn, so get used to it. Try to find the humor in how very human we all are.
“Have a sense of gratitude to everything, even difficult emotions, because of their potential to WAKE YOU UP.” – Pema
Learn much more about dealing with shame and forgiveness by reading my book: How To Believe In Love Again: Opening To Forgiveness, Trust, and Your Own Inner Wisdom.
