“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Dr. Howard Thurman
The popular term “reinvention” suggests some mastery over transition, but does not come close to describing the types of changes some of us are going through these days. The trick is taking your own crisis in hand, and demanding that it turn into the BEST opportunity of your entire life.
If you should suddenly become aware that what once worked for you, no longer does, I have one piece of advice for you:
Listen carefully to that still, small voice from within.
Listen like you never have before. Even if it says things that seem irrational or even crazy. This is your inner wisdom telling you what makes you come alive. Don’t try to ignore it or drown it out, because it will just keep hounding you until you pay heed. Sooner is better than later, especially since you have probably been ignoring this voice your entire life.
Most of us got some heavy messages when we were young to only do well-thought out, practical things, especially when it came to our education or career choices. Many of us also followed our parents’ practical advice in our personal life, like who we chose to marry and where we chose to live, etc. Now is the time to finally do what you want.
I found that sometimes my still, small voice made little sense in the moment, but when I followed through with the actions suggested, those actions would lead to other opportunities I could not have foreseen.
For example, everyone including myself thought I had lost it when I started my own dating service after I lost my job as an academic librarian, but I felt strongly that I wanted to do this. Then, when I found I had more cool women than men in my service, I joined Match.com to attract more men. The very first man I met this way turned out to be my new husband!
How could I have ever seen that coming? Finding love at 49 led to the kind of deep emotional support I needed to launch myself as a writer at age 50. One thing leads to another in mysterious ways sometimes!