One way to approach this question is with a different question: “What else is there to believe in, especially past age 40?” What other experience will make you feel better about yourself and your life?
I have personally witnessed the disappointment of those who believe money will somehow make them happy or feel more secure in life. My first husband appeared to think that only the accumulation of more and more money was worthwhile, but it seemed he would never have enough to find happiness.
Although I laugh at the saying: “Those who say money can’t make you happy, just don’t know where to shop!” I also know that money has never been the source of my greatest happiness. It’s just something you need to have to cover expenses. Yes, sometimes buying something you really want offers temporary excitement and pleasure, but I have found it quite disappointing as a long-term solution.
I only know when I was feeling down and out, you know, like a midlife loser, the only solution I found satisfactory was to find a way to believe in love again.
My divorce had left me feeling completely disillusioned, but when I imagined never finding authentic love in this lifetime, I really didn’t want to go on. That’s why it felt so essential that I find my way back to love. And sure enough, what you focus on grows!
Through a number of changes I made including starting my own dating service, I did find love again at 49, and in the most unpredictable way! Six years later, I make a point of appreciating my great fortune everyday.
“Love doesn’t make the world go round, it just makes the trip worthwhile”
Need some friendly assistance believing in love again? I can help.
We grow old as soon as we cease to love and trust…
